What to Do When You’re Feeling Lost

If you’re reading these words, then chances are you’re unfulfilled with whatever direction you have taken in life.

Maybe it’s time for a change, but how do you work out where to go?

You feel lost.

You’re most likely in your 20s.

You might have a job and what is considered a good life… so why aren’t you happy?

My name is Tom Day and I am an Adventurer (I make money from going on adventures). When I graduated with a degree in Fine Art back in 2015, I had no idea what I was going to do with my life. I didn’t want to be an artist anymore and I was back at home living with mum!

People always ask you, as you’re growing up, ‘what are you going to do when you’re older?’ Well, now I needed an answer.

I took a job in a warehouse for lack of better choice. Over my 3 months there, I’d never felt so empty.

I realised I needed to find my passion and I believe that the best way to achieve that is to travel. So, I saved what I could and quit my job.

There is so much complexity to a human being and the road allows you to explore that, no matter how dark, disturbing, supressed, weird or wonderful.

You don’t need to go to the other side of the world and rough it in a tent with no money, you don’t even need to go to another country; just a town in a different part of the country for a weekend will begin to help you. But, of course, going to a place where people’s values and ideas are the polar opposite to yours is infinitely beneficial.

It is an intimidating idea, and I advise beginning with a partner or group to ease you in. I could never have set out alone on my first trip.

Soon, you’ll be ready to take your own road. It isn’t for everyone, but the discoveries you will make about yourself will be deeper and come more frequently.

Alone, you can be whomever you want to for a time. That dark side, creative side, business side and so on can come out. You can say or do anything to the people you come across (within the limits of local laws) and never have to see people again if you don’t want to.

I won’t lie to you, the good times are often followed by bad ones, and in those moments you are your true self. After, you will ask yourself, why did I do that? Say that? Think that? That’s how a police officer behaves. That’s what a lawyer might’ve said.

Not only these moments, but every new experience will reveal another layer of your character. Before too long, you’ll know what makes you happy and what you want to do in life.

You probably won’t have a single job title boiled down, but you’ll at least know what area it is in, and once you know that, you’ll know which path to take. Just surround yourself with people who share your passion and opportunities will open up that you never knew were there. ‘Adventurer’ is a job title I would never have found at the jobfare.

So, to sum up, you’re most likely feeling lost because you aren’t fulfilled. It is a lesser-known, basic human need and I believe that lacking this is the cause of a lot of mental illness and addiction, both of which I’ve had dealings with before finding my passion.

In the last 16 months of hitchhiking around the world, I have explored myself more than most people do in their whole lives. I feel calm, peaceful and happy all the time and I know exactly what I am doing with my life. I hope this article inspires the first step on your road to fulfillment!

7 thoughts on “What to Do When You’re Feeling Lost

  1. Very inspiring, mate!

    I do wonder, though: how is it that you get paid for adventuring? And more specifically, how have you been funding your current trip?


    1. Thanks a lot. I saved £2700 before I left and I live as frugally as possible. I obviously don’t pay for transport, and most night are spend in the tent hotel. Food is basic.

      In terms of making money, I have been stopping to make a bit of cash in a couple of countries. I give the occasional talk at a school (I’ll be doing a lot more in the coming months) I’ll write a book when I get back and speak at events, conferences etc., and my blog is going to be geberating income soon (hopefully!). So it’s a bundle of small things to make an income just high enough to carry on. The income isn’t anything impressive, but it’ll be enough to never have to work a bad job for someone else again.


  2. Great read and I feel like a some people will be able to relate to this. In social work, we talk a lot about how important it is to build a social network of like-minded people and passions but also the need for reflective practice.



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